by socialchick~ These are my never ever ever should you do's. If you don't like them, then it's ok to be wrong (that's what my dad says). If you have done them, then don't get your feelings hurt, just learn from them.
1. We are not dogs. We are all humans! So never ever ask a women who just spit out a baby (no matter if it's her 1st or 44th) if she got fixed. She is not a 4 legged hairy animal that goes around barking. Show more respect than that. If you are wondering if this has happened to me. YES 452 times!
2. This is a spin off from number 1. Don't assume that it is your business to know if someone is getting their tubes tide or a Vasectomy unless they want to share the information. This could be a private matter that they don't want to share.
3. Don't make up excuses just cause you don't want to do something. The excuse becomes a lie and now you have sinned. EIther tell the truth and say you don't feel like doing it or suck it up and do it.
4. Don't act like you know what someone is going through unless you have traveled a mile in their shoes. No matter if you think that your situation is the same, it's not. Everyone handles things differently. I can't tell you how many times I have heard I know what you are going through since I have had Tiny Bliss. Well unless you have three kids under the age of 3 1/2 (that's how old Miss Priss was when I had Tiny Bliss) and your third one screams all the time then you have no CLUE!
5. Stop acting like your problems are bigger than your neighbors.
6. Don't make me try to be someone I'm not. Have you ever been around someone that you feel like they don't like you for who you are and you can never be yourself around them. This frustrates me. I am who God made me to be and if you don't like it then take it up with him.
7. Don't talk to someone that is an adult like they are a child. I don't care if they are 10 years younger than you. Babychick is around 10 years younger than some of the other chicks but they don't talk to her like a child.
8. Stop putting half of the information on facebook. This pesters the snot out of me. You click on FB and see that someone has written this is the worst but best day of my life. Well to us this is saying that you are pregnant and didn't want to be. To you it may be a new start in life. How about the ones that say be praying. Well what in the crap am I praying about or do you want me to be praying in general. Stop doing it for attention or just cause you think it is fun! It's not!
9. Don't act like you know more than someone who has experienced it for several more years than you. I love when people try to give me marriage advice that have been married for 1 year when I have been married for 10. I think it is ok to share some things you do but don't think that we need to do it like you. I wouldn't try to tell a teacher who has been teaching for 30 years how to do something.
I'm sure I could think of some more but I will let you share yours. What are some don't do's in your life? Put a Holler by the numbers that you agree with of mine. I will put a Holler by the numbers I agree with of yours.
Completely agree with 4, 6, 7, and 8.
1. Don't come in to where I work (retail), talk to me like I'm 5, and be a complete (insert certain word) to me for an hour and when you go to checkout expect to me give you a coupon or discount that you shouldn't technically get anyway.
2. Don't accuse me of betrayal or disloyalty and then assume everything's gonna be like it was before. Also, don't pull me aside and ask why I've been distant, bring up the original problem, and try to ask about my family life like we're best buds. Back up dude; I don't think so.
You know, I really feel much better. Thanks Social Chick. :)
Posted by: Jessica W. | September 15, 2010 at 09:33 AM
#1 HOLLAR
#3 HOLLAR - hate excuses even if they're not lies they're still excuses
#6 HOLLAR which I'm pretty sure I do some of that to myself. ;)
Don't assume things about people that you just don't know are true.
Posted by: singerchick | September 15, 2010 at 09:58 AM
I think I will have to HOLLA at 1 thru 10!!! These are all pretty valid important things!! As far as #8 I also think you shouldn't put your business on FB to get all upset and whiney when people are talking about your business!
My #1 People minding my business about having a child so young or having more children...My daughter is 11 yrs old and I would love to have more...why do they have a right to tell me "how could you ever want to start over you were so young when you had her you should take the opportunity to have a life of your own now that she is growing up! Well my child whether she is 3 or 63 will always be my life and my number one priority and just because I had her at the age of 16 does NOT make me feel like I missed out on life! It has been a beautiful life that through all of the ups and downs God has blessed me with and he knows BEST! So no I have not missed out on life! So please do not think it is necessary to tell me how much I have sacrificed or gave up or missed out on because none of it would ever compare to the love of my child and the memories of watching her grow up! Sorry to ramble but it just irritates the mess out of me for people to do this to me.
Posted by: kristin k | September 15, 2010 at 02:02 PM
another good post. gotta holler out for #3. i learned on Oprah the other day to start saying 'that doesn't work for me'. I don't like telling people no.
Posted by: sofa | September 16, 2010 at 06:53 AM
Umm, Holler to all of them!
Some of mine are:
Let your yes be yes and your no be no. This is kind of a spin off of number 3. I have no problem with being told no, just don't tell me your gonna do one thing and then back out at the complete last minute!
Quit assuming that I am someone I am not. In the words of bossy chick and beyonce "you must not know 'bout me".
loving someone where they are at does not mean remain silent and ignore all issues. If you truly love them speak your mind (if God so leads).
And this one is one I have had to learn myself the past couple of months. Don't complain about your situation yet remain idle. Either make the best of where you are at (because a lot of times it's right where God put you) or make a change. And remember how blessed you are, remind yourself of the good things, and don't feel bad about expressing the bad, just don't become consumed and bogged down by it!
These may copy yours and bossy's a bit, but they are my interpretations, lol!
Posted by: plannerchick | September 16, 2010 at 09:04 AM