by sassychick ~ Instead of waking up everyday TRYING to earn love - Wake up everyday in the awareness you ALREADY ARE.
1 John 4:18...There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life - fear of death, fear of judgment - is one not yet fully formed in love.
I am not referencing a relationship with a husband, a child, a friend. Why? Because that is not a perfect love. Lesson number 1....There is one, and only one, perfect love. Quit trying to make it make sense.
How many of us have thought the following at one time or another...
I had two flat tires, I didn't get that promotion at work, and the kids are out of control....God must be trying to tell me something. I must be out of his "favor". Why else would this be happening?
I read recently the exact definition of this kind of mindset...Favor Driven Relationship...or a petal picking Christianity...he loves me, he loves me not. That has never occurred to me that I had been living that kind of relationship with my father. I spoke of love, taught of love, but I lived with a favor driven mindset...if I just kept it in between the white lines, it should be smooth sailing. Any boat rocking and I must be out of his"favor".
The only thing that implies is that my God loves me based on my actions, based on what I do to "EARN" it. Why do we strive to be accepted by a God who went to GREAT lengths to prove it was already ours. So I have spent 30 years trying to earn points with a God who doesn't keep score.
I think we have missed the point on many of the lessons God has tried to teach us throughout his word. Where we have perceived punishment and been motivated by fear, God was teaching us HIS UNENDING LOVE. His love in unaffected by our actions. The key to God's favor is NOT what I can do or give him, but what I've already been given.
This was PERFECTLY illustrated by my son who when he did something wrong said, "Mom did the devil get in my heart?" No son, the devil did not get in your heart. We all do things we shouldn't sometimes. God still loves you the EXACT SAME AMOUNT as he did before you did it wrong. The only thing guaranteed is we will mess up and God, who loves us passionately, will continue to loves us. Period.
So I hear your minds just a going. Isn't that a excuse to sin....Who will do right if they know there is isn't a fireball to decimate them at a moment's notice? So how is that been workin for ya so far?
Fear motivates temporarily. Love motivates permanently. Not going to hell should NOT be our main selling point for a relationship with God. If it is, we don't know much about why God created this union between himself and man. What He pictured was a lifetime spent teaching us the depths and width of His love, through any adversity, anytime we fail, despite all doubt and in knowing how deep that love goes we can't help but love Him right back.
When you love someone, walking with them becomes second nature. Not participating in sin is something we are compelled to do out of genuine love for a God who did everything in his power to remove anything that will cause distance between Himself and his beloved, not because he will hate me if I do. Fear is powerful, God's love in infinitely more powerful.
I read this and I thought it was a perfect definition: God is not disillusioned with you, because he had no illusions about you in the first place. It ok for us to be disillusioned with God, WHY?....because we need to "DISS" our Illusions. So God has given us the power to CHOSE to live in his love or consciously walk less loved and into bondage. What an amazing and seemingly easy choice, yet we chose the latter EVERYDAY.
Why do we have such a hard time walking Loved? Because we cannot love without trust, and frankly most of us have a hard time trusting God. Not JUST because we may have had a bad experience with our earthly father, but because we live in a punishment/reward based world. If we don't earn it there is no reward and when we do bad we can expect some punishment. Well newsflash, you can't compare God love to anything you experience on earth, why? Because you will NEVER experience that kind of love with another human. Doesn't sin offer its own punishment in the form of consequences? Does God have to hand out punishment on top of punishment? Or maybe, just maybe, does God let us experience the consequences of sin and Love us through the consequences and use those times to illustrate His perfect love. And human love - imperfect. That's a promise.
If we don't FULLY trust that God is passionately in love with us AT ALL TIMES, we will keep him at arms length and never walk in relationship with him, never truly experience him. We will continue to walk in shame and doubt. We cannot trust based on our abilities, if we do that we are saying God is not bigger than our failure. And that we couldn't be more wrong.
Are you tired of riding a roller coaster? Are you tired of working so hard in an attempt to "earn it". Joy has been handed to you. Freedom has been handed to you. Acceptance has been handed to you. Love has been handed to you. Will you walk hand and hand with it? Or will you CHOSE to walk less loved?