women raise the standard

by Sassy Chick ~ Are you seated ladies and gentlemen?  There has been a sexual assault at the Playboy Mansion. Click here for the story. 

If you’re like me, you’re far less than surprised.  I can’t imagine this should actually be a problem though, for the empire built on the exploitation of women for one purpose only and I don’t have to spell that out for you.

So as I woman, I fell uniquely qualified to give my opinion on this matter.  And here it is in a nutshell, I am sick and tired.  Sick and tired of having to fling my body half way across the room so my children don’t see the commercials that show women half dressed and not close to suggesting, but rather coming right out and selling it.  Don’t give me that line that it only happens after a certain time of day, it is absolutely not limited to late night hours. 

FYI - My husband and I are trying a little experiment here.  We are attempting to keep our sons as innocent as possible, for as long as possible.  Crazy, I know.  But we are just crazy enough to think it might work.  And no, we are not blind to the fact that there will be a time in which we have to let go, but guess what, at 4 and 7, it ain’t right now.  If God had not intended me to parent them, he would not have given them to me and made it my job.  And by the way, that job started at birth.  My children were no more able to make life and death decisions at infancy than they are right not and accepting that doesn’t make me a bad parent.  If fact, I think it qualifies me as a pretty good one.

So while we desperately try to teach our sons to respect, honor and cherish women, images bombarding them in both print and television media show women in an overwhelmingly sexual explicit manner.  And to be fair, I don’t believe the blame falls entirely on the media, the men and Hugh Heffner.  You know I actually still buy into that whole taking responsibility thing, so my beef is with the women.  Get some clothes on.  Get some dignity.  Get some class.  Get some pants that fit for crying out loud. 

Listen,  I vividly remember being a young lady and no, it really wasn’t that long ago.  There is another path you can take other than the “I’ll play dumb to the fact that I’m using my sexuality to get what I want”.   You can succeed, you can find a husband who is wonderful, and you can be everything God intended for you to be with out compromising who you are.  In the end, it really doesn’t matter that this way of behaving in no longer the norm.  DEFY THE NORM.

I'd like to take this moment to acknowledge that there are people I know who are committed to raising beautiful, wonderful, God chasing daughters.  One of which, is Social Chick.  Her hubby actually has a few rules for there one year old that I like to tease him about.  Seriously though, I think he is absolutely right and I applaud him for sticking to his convictions.  They are raising their girl to be an amazing woman one day.

I admit, we have set our expectations for women far too low.  You can be intelligent, social, beautiful, focused, and at the same time in an intimate, loving relationship with your creator.  We do not have to let early sexuality define us.  Not only can we shift the image, we can teach our daughters to challenge it. 

What we don’t have, is any more time to ignore it and hope it will get better. 

Comments

[photochick]

to avoid writing my own thesis in reply . . . which would basically be the same thing in new words . . . let me just say . . .

ditto and amen!

[singer chick]

Well said!